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Stress can make people focus more on their spouse’s bad habits – even married couples who are still in the ‘honeymoon period’ of their relationship, study finds
- Researchers warn stress can make people focus more on their lover’s bad habits
- Past studies showed stressful life circumstances can affect how couples interact
- Experts now think stress could affect which actions partners notice in first place
- Negative habits include spouse breaking promise, showing anger or impatience
Stressful life circumstances can make people focus more on their spouse’s bad habits, a new study has warned.
Researchers say this applies even to married couples still in the ‘honeymoon’ period of their relationship.
Past studies have shown that stressful life circumstances can affect how couples interact, but this new one shows that someone experiencing stress is more likely to notice their spouse’s negative behaviour.
Researchers now believe that stress could affect which actions partners notice in the first place.
The negative actions included a spouse breaking a promise, showing anger or impatience, or criticising their partner.
Tensions: Stress can make people focus more on their lover’s bad habits, a new study has warned (stock image)
Study lead author Dr Lisa Neff, of the University of Texas, said: ‘We found that individuals who reported experiencing more stressful life events outside of their relationship, such as problems at work, were especially likely to notice if their partner behaved in an inconsiderate manner.’
The research team asked 79 heterosexual newlywed couples to complete a short survey each night for 10 days, in which they documented both their own and their partner’s behaviour.
Before the study period began, participants completed a questionnaire in which they shared details of stressful events in their life.
Dr Neff said that studying newlyweds drives home the significance of the results, because couples are especially likely to focus on each other’s positive behaviour and overlook negative actions during the ‘honeymoon period’.
‘For many people, the past few years have been difficult — and the stress of the pandemic continues to linger,’ she said.
‘If stress focuses individuals’ attention toward their partner’s more inconsiderate behaviours, this is likely to take a toll on the relationship.’
The researchers found that a single stressful day was not enough to make someone focus on their partner’s negative behaviour, but a longer accumulation of stressful life circumstances could cause a shift in their attention.
The findings also suggest that those under stress were not any less likely to notice their partner’s positive behaviour, but they were more likely to notice inconsiderate actions.
Researchers say this applies even to married couples still in the ‘honeymoon’ period of their relationship
While it is possible that being aware of the effects of stress could allow couples to correct their behaviour and limit harm to their relationship, Dr Neff believes this can only be speculated until it is studied further.
She said future research would do well to expand the study beyond the honeymoon phase.
‘One direction would be to examine if the harmful effects of stress might be even stronger among couples no longer in the newlywed phase of their relationships,’ Dr Neff added.
‘But the fact that we found these effects in a sample of newlyweds speaks to how impactful the effects of stress can be.’
The study has been published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science.
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